Tash’s story (13) writes about living with mum

 

"Mum always shouted a lot and would get really angry with us. Not all the time though. Sometimes she’d give us cuddles, play with us, buy us things. But when she got angry sometimes she’d hit us.

 

One time she hit my brother so hard that he had bruises and couldn’t sit down. Sometimes she pulled my hair. She’d break things and throw things at us when she was angry. Once she’d hit me and knocked me over, I cut my head, there was a lot of blood – she got upset and took me to hospital. She told me to tell the doctors I’d been fighting.

 

A few times we went to the doctor's and had to tell them we’d hurt ourselves playing when really mum had hit us. We were both scared of her at times because we never knew when she’d get angry. My brother was always really quiet, he didn’t like to upset her – his teachers thought he was depressed. I tried to run away but was scared to leave her – she seemed so sad and I was worried about leaving my brother on his own.

 

Mum said if we told anyone the social workers would take us away. She said she’d stop hitting us. My PE teacher found out about it, she was really nice. She noticed the bruises on my arms and legs – I didn’t tell her right away but when I did she said she needed to make sure me and my brother were safe. She told a social worker – mum was angry at first but then just cried. The social worker didn’t take us away – they helped mum and talked to me and my brother; our social worker is really nice and takes us out. I’m glad someone found out."

© 2008 Royal College of Psychiatrists