Ron was my first son. He was always a lively energetic one, even as a toddler - early to walk and run. I could not keep up the pace and would feel exhausted running after him. It drove me nuts.
When he was 6 I met Linda, his classmate’s mum. She told she had same difficulties with her son, but then she attended a parenting group and it was really helpful. She said it took some time, but it was really basic and it made all the difference. I agreed to give it a try.
At first I didn't think the group was for me as I found it difficult to talk to strangers about my difficulties controlling my child...but I soon it was OK. All the parents had had similar experiences. Just talking to others made it feel much easier. I was not shouting at Ron “stop it” all the time.
I was more tolerant, I praised him when he ate his breakfast and gave him a hug. It seemed all calmer, even Ron seemed to notice the difference. He seemed a happier child, listening to me. When I wanted him to really do something, I would just look at him, speak to him calmly and tell him what to do, in simple words. No long explanations. Just few words and it worked. So simple.
Ron loves his evening time before tea on his bike while I walk the dog. I feel it has worked out well … just in time.